Servant Leadership and Private Money: The Winning Formula in Real Estate Investing

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“He Raised $2M After the Bank Cut Him Off”
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Jay’s story starts with a gut punch: in 2009, his bank cut off his funding without notice, leaving him with two properties under contract and no way to close. In those first critical moments, he didn’t focus on how to fix the problem alone, but rather on who could help. That question led him to a friend, Jeff, who introduced Jay to the world of Private Money and self-directed IRAs. This is a vital mindset shift for any entrepreneur: don’t ask “how,” ask “who.”

Jay emphasizes that real estate is a team sport. Cultivating relationships with mentors, advisors, and mastermind groups isn’t just a networking hack—it’s survival. As John Maxwell told Jay at an event: “I just fail more than anybody else because I try so many more things.” The key is bouncing forward, learning from every experience.

How to Attract, Not Beg, for Private Money
A myth Jay is quick to bust is the “get the deal, the money will show up” mantra preached by so many so-called gurus. The truth? Money doesn't walk up to your door, and it doesn’t have legs. Instead, Jay’s philosophy is to get the money lined up first, offering potential lenders a consistent opportunity regardless of the deal.

So how do you start?
Lead with Education: The first conversation with a potential lender is never about a deal. Instead, Jay focuses on teaching what private lending is, how it works, and—most importantly—how it’s safer and more lucrative than they’ve realized.

Build Real Relationships: Every one of Jay’s 47 private lenders was either a previous acquaintance or referral. Trust is the foundation; never approach someone you don’t know with an investment pitch.

Offer Real Protection: Private lenders get the same protections a bank would receive—insured, secured loans, conservative loan-to-values. Jay makes it simple: you’re already approved, and the terms are clear upfront.

Separate Money and Deals: Don’t commingle the ask. First, present the opportunity. Only later, when the lender is committed, do you bring a specific deal for them to fund.

Why Private Money Wins
What’s the big differentiator? Speed. In one memorable deal, Jay shared how private funds allowed him to buy an oceanfront condo facing foreclosure within seven days—a timeframe banks could never match. That quick action not only netted a hefty profit for his business but handed the sellers nearly $100,000 more than if it had gone to foreclosure.

And, as Jay points out, thinking like a real estate investor doesn’t mean cutting corners or exploiting the vulnerable. Real service is about solving people’s problems, putting money in their pocket, and treating their situation with integrity and empathy. Every successful deal is built on trust, transparency, and putting the other person’s needs first.

Timestamps:
00:00 Attracting Private Money for deals
04:35 Lessons from my dad Wallace
09:03 Mastermind group experiences
12:25 Facing the global financial crisis
14:26 Learning about Private Money
17:12 Discussing private lender protections
22:00 Educating on private lending
25:20 Discussing investment interest rates
30:25 Structuring deals with private lenders
34:08 Criteria for lending money
37:51 Balancing real estate and coaching
40:53 Private Money Conference details
44:59 Helping homeowners facing foreclosure
46:53 Dividing responsibilities in business partnership
49:24 Funding deals without bank permission

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Have you read Jay’s new book, Where to Get the Money Now?
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What is Private Money? Real Estate Investing with Jay Conner
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Jay Conner is a proven leader in real estate investing. Without using his own money or credit, Jay maximizes creative methods to buy and sell properties with profits averaging $86,000 per deal.

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